Welcome to part 1 of a 2-part interview with Hasani and Danielle Pettiford. They are a married couple who specialize in helping other couples improve their marriages. Specifically, recovering and restoring a marriage after infidelity. Today’s episode is geared toward the partner who has been betrayed: the stages of recovery, how to assess if the marriage is salvageable, how to take care of your wellbeing and how to, hopefully, save the marriage.
You’ll find out:
- What drew Hasani & Danielle to their line of work
- What is the discovery stage
- What is full disclosure (re: a relationship in crisis)
- Why the betrayed may not want to know the full truth
- What the Pettifords encourage the betrayed spouse to do
- What you might learn from the affair of your spouse
- The 2 areas that take the longest to experience closure from
- Why most people — who experience infidelity — divorce (and, surprise, it’s not because of the affair)
- How to protect the marriage from the affair ever happening again
- How/when does the couple make the decision, together, to stay and work on their marriage
- The percentage of men vs women who commit infidelity
- What motivates men vs women to restore their marriage
- How the betrayed spouse can enter the phase of protecting the marriage while not creating distance (and shame) in themselves (and the unfaithful partner)
- What is the parenting phase
- What the unfaithful has the right to ask for
- What 2 things an affair exposes
- The 4 different types of forgiveness
- How the Pettifords fixed their marriage
- The difference between marriage and a relationship (and why it’s important to identify the difference)
- Examples of triggers (within the relationship) and how to resolve them
- What is time-lapse therapy
- The 4 different types of intimacy
- A powerful exercise to improve intimacy
- Where does grief fit in for the betrayed partner
- What the betrayed should NOT do
- Why/how to protect kids from a marriage
- How to get over being betrayed
- Individual vs Marriage therapy
- Different kinds of addiction (the betrayer may have)
- What is truly possible for the future (of a relationship experiencing betrayal)
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If you liked this episode, check out Episode #761 – Can Your Marriage Survive Infidelity? | Part 2 The Unfaithful with Hasani & Danielle Pettiford
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