Do’s and Don’ts For When Your Daughter Is Getting Married (Mostly For the Moms)

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This blog is mostly dedicated to the mother of the bride. You’ll find do’s and don’ts to keep in mind for when your daughter is getting married.

What makes me an expert on this subject?

Well, maybe not an expert, but…

My daughter, Cierra, was married this summer. And, my son, Brock, got married mere weeks ago. So yeah, I’ve learned a thing or two.

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Don’t Do These Things When Your Daughter Is Getting Married

Tip 1: The dress.

If you’re the mother of the bride (or groom), please don’t give a second thought to how other people will perceive your dress. Who freaking cares? 

Are they paying for the wedding? No.

Does their opinion of what you wear on any other day matter? It shouldn’t. 

The only opinions that matter are that of the bride and the groom. And you, of course.

So, get the dress that:

  • the bride/groom think is appropriate (and want to see you in)
  • feels like you
  • best represents you — without necessarily regard to the norms

Tip 2: Ensure the bride has realistic expectations for the wedding day. 

You just can’t enter into something like this — or any big event — with the idea that everything is going to be perfect (i.e., every single plan/detail goes off without a hitch). 

There’s going to be:

  • problems
  • hiccups
  • unforeseen challenges
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Set that honest, realistic expectation early, so that when those things do go wrong, it doesn’t trigger her. We don’t need more bridezillas enacting terror in the world!

Tip 3: Write out your toast.

Most weddings I’ve been to the father of the bride usually gives a toast. Hence, moms, ask your daughter if she’d like for you to give a toast. Because hey, she might not even think to ask you. 

And perhaps you’re thinking,

“Oh man, I’m not a public speaker. I don’t wanna do that!” 

Listen, this is a once in a lifetime opportunity to tell your daughter in front of the world how much she means to you and how happy you are for their union. 
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Don’t worry about whether you’re a great speaker or not. 

Tips for the toast: 

  • Don’t try to memorize it (you could miss or forget saying one very important line, for example)
  • Watch YouTube videos of wedding toasts
  • Pretend she’s the only person in the room
  • Say the things that you know you would have wanted to hear from your own mother

For so much more related to this topic, like:

  • The surprising reaction (on social media) to my dress at Cierra’s wedding
  • Why it’s so crucial to find the right wedding planners
  • The LAST thing you want your daughter to feel on her special day
  • Why I recommend requesting alone time with the bride

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