How to Raise Confident Adults and Self Sufficient Kids

Confidence can be built and strengthened-26

In this episode I want to talk to you about how impactful our relationship is with our kids. We love our kids more than life itself, and even though we typically have their best interest at heart, we sometimes make mistakes. So today I want to talk to you about the common mistakes we makes and how to change them moving forward.


Areas you can give your children confidence:

– Their appearance. Please never say anything about your child’s physical appearance. They know they’re overweight. They deal with enough scrutiny from their peers; they don’t need it from you too. You’ve got to role model this. You’ve got tell your kids they’re beautiful. That God made them just the way they are and that is beautiful!


– Belief in their value. Your children have value even if they don’t follow in your footsteps. Yes, it’s great to motivate your kids to stay on track and do the best they can. But please do not revolve their worth around things like getting straight A’s, or being the best player on a sports team, or winning a math competition.


– Teaching them they’re good enough and smart enough. Stop doing everything for your child, and stop criticizing and correcting everything they do! You build confident children when we give them experience. Don’t make their beds! Don’t fight their fights! Teach them that they are self-sufficient.


The most confident adults are the ones who know that they can fail, and that failure is okay. The key is, we can’t just DO for our kids. When you are doing for your kids, that’s not showing them love. That is not love. Love is teaching your kids that they ARE smart enough to do it on their own.

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