Do you have healthy boundaries in your relationships — from work to home — or do they border on problematic?
Or maybe you’re not sure.
Listen, having clearly defined boundaries for all aspects of life, including…
- Mental
- Physical
- Spiritual
- Financial
- Emotional
…is crucial for one’s overall well-being.
Think of these as your own personal psychological fences — defined by YOU.
But what exactly is a healthy boundary?
Healthy boundaries are those where we’re so clear in our identity — what we will and won’t accept — that we don’t feel triggered or let down or hurt by other people.
It’s having the ability to say “no, thank you” — even if it does make you feel, momentarily, uncomfortable. But you know it’s the right path to take because you’re protecting your own identity.
Examples of healthy boundaries in relationships/environments:
- Parents — Children are not allowed to walk into mom and dad’s bedroom without knocking
- Partner — Designate when you need space
- Work — Committing to family time by not checking office emails
My social media boundary.
According to recent studies, the average person spends 145 minutes a day on Social Media. And that number goes way up when you’re ALSO using social for business (like I do).
So, your usage of Social Media, in general, and the people you interact with on any given platform, very much qualifies as:
- A relationship
- Another place to set healthy boundaries
If I get more than a few rude DMs from somebody on Instagram, I don’t engage with that person. Ever.
I have no interest in trying to convince anyone, especially strangers, of my:
- Values
- Identity
- Beliefs
But when do boundaries go too far?
Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems to me that my generation was the first to really embrace personal development, therapy, etc.
Then, Millennials and Gen Z came along and took the self-help movement and turned it into a multibillion-dollar industry.
While so much of this has been wonderful for individuals and society, as a whole, I wonder if we’ve reached a point where things have gone too far?
I mean, it feels as if EVERYTHING is a boundary now.
Which is exactly why I recorded The Chalene Show episode below!
We simply need to understand:
- When boundaries do, in fact, become too rigid & unhealthy
- The right and wrong way to communicate a boundary
- What happens when we expect people to read our minds
It’s not other people’s responsibility to read our minds. And it’s also not their responsibility to honor our boundaries. It’s our responsibility to protect them.
I posted snippets of this podcast all over social media and the response has been off-the-charts! Lots of epiphanies and good stuff happening, so definitely check it out NOW:
It’s my hope that it might encourage the start of healthy balance and communication in your relationships, from work to home.
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