I don’t think I need to go into why you need a list of certain things to say no to. You know you need to say no more often, right?
But sometimes we need to hear from someone — other than our own subconscious or mother — that some things are just not doing us any favors in life.
And the following list should prove a good start.
List of Things To Say No To
One — Self-centered / self-absorbed friends and family members.
Now, I know what you’re thinking,
“Oh Chalene, how do I say no to family members if they’re in my own freaking home!?”
I didn’t say you had to kick them out and I didn’t say you didn’t have to be kind — you just don’t have to say yes to everything.
Remember, we teach people how to treat us! Say no to…
- activities
- events
- social gatherings
…you’re not looking forward to and/or don’t want to go to.
In other situations, just politely send in your RSVP and let them know, unfortunately, you will not be able to attend.
Two — People who continually tap you for money and resources (and nothing changes).
Frankly, if someone constantly comes to you for a loan or for advice and nothing is changing, you’re not helping them.
Three — Social media.
If looking at the content of certain accounts makes you feel less…
- pretty
- cute
- smart
- exciting
…just say no to them by muting or unfollowing. Why subject yourself to anything which triggers negative feelings in you?
Four — Social activities you know are not healthy for you.
For example, you’ve got that one friend who — every time you see her — you…
- eat too much with
- drink too much with
- gossip too much with
In this scenario, maybe the next time she invites you out say,
“Well, I’ve got something else in mind. Why don’t we try taking a hike or a workout class together?”
Five — Being used.
You know your value.
If you’re an entrepreneur and you’re allowing people to demand your time — 24/7 — you’ve made yourself an employee of your own business.
When you…
- don’t establish boundaries
- say yes to everyone
- respond to messages/inquiries on Saturday night, Sunday morning and on your kid’s birthday
…you’re undervaluing your own worth.
For many more things on the list to say no to, plus:
- The value of saying no to bad habits
- Why you should refrain from working with bad clients
- When you should tell your kids no
- What is and how to stop doing life work at your day job
- The power of saying no to distractions
Then, you must check out this episode of The Chalene Show:
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