I don’t think I need to go into why you need a list of certain things to say no to. You know you need to say no more often, right?
But sometimes we need to hear from someone — other than our own subconscious or mother — that some things are just not doing us any favors in life.
And the following list should prove a good start.
List of Things To Say No To
One — Self-centered / self-absorbed friends and family members.
Now, I know what you’re thinking,
“Oh Chalene, how do I say no to family members if they’re in my own freaking home!?”
I didn’t say you had to kick them out and I didn’t say you didn’t have to be kind — you just don’t have to say yes to everything.
Remember, we teach people how to treat us! Say no to…
- social gatherings
…you’re not looking forward to and/or don’t want to go to.
In other situations, just politely send in your RSVP and let them know, unfortunately, you will not be able to attend.
Two — People who continually tap you for money and resources (and nothing changes).
Frankly, if someone constantly comes to you for a loan or for advice and nothing is changing, you’re not helping them.
Three — Social media.
If looking at the content of certain accounts makes you feel less…
…just say no to them by muting or unfollowing. Why subject yourself to anything which triggers negative feelings in you?
Four — Social activities you know are not healthy for you.
For example, you’ve got that one friend who — every time you see her — you…
- eat too much with
- drink too much with
- gossip too much with
In this scenario, maybe the next time she invites you out say,
“Well, I’ve got something else in mind. Why don’t we try taking a hike or a workout class together?”
Five — Being used.
You know your value.
If you’re an entrepreneur and you’re allowing people to demand your time — 24/7 — you’ve made yourself an employee of your own business.
- don’t establish boundaries
- say yes to everyone
- respond to messages/inquiries on Saturday night, Sunday morning and on your kid’s birthday
…you’re undervaluing your own worth.
For many more things on the list to say no to, plus:
- The value of saying no to bad habits
- Why you should refrain from working with bad clients
- When you should tell your kids no
- What is and how to stop doing life work at your day job
- The power of saying no to distractions
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