Whenever I meet kids, I’ll ask: “Tell me what you’re most looking forward to?” Their responses are always the cutest, ranging from “my birthday!” or “going to the beach with my dad!” or “riding my new bike!”
The point I’d like to make is… these little humans never have to think about their answer. Something immediately comes to mind.
And I want you to feel the same.
When someone asks you, “What is it you’re looking forward to?” — something should pop into your mind right away.
Now, I use this tactic to keep me energized when, for example, I’m in the middle of a conversation with someone who happens to be rambling and rambling. You’ve been there, right? Your mind starts to wander and you just wish you were anywhere but there!
Now, usually a few minutes into my boredom, is when I’ll realize what’s happening with my attention. And that’s when I force myself to think of the thing I’m looking forward to! Why?
It brings feelings of gratitude! That, in turn, makes me feel happy, which makes me feel empathetic. And that, ultimately, allows me to get back into good listener mode and not take that person (I’m listening to) for granted.
That’s why I want you to have something to look forward to because when you flash to that thing in your mind… you can’t help but feel blessed, excited, and happy.
To be honest, I think this might be the reason I’m not a fan of surprises. Oh, heck no! If you surprise me with whatever, I’m missing the joy of anticipation, planning, and daydreaming. I’m robbed of the thrill that future experience does for my motivation, energy, and happiness.
I’m telling you, plan anything! And it doesn’t have to be expensive.
- A trip to the beach
- Skype with your girlfriends
Having something to look forward to — big or small, cheap or pricey — can really change the way you feel about your day or your circumstances.
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