You’re Dead, Now What?

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1. This is a very hard and touchy subject. I agree with what you said about my parents don’t want to have us take care of them, but I think about all they sacrificed for me, what they sold so I could have certain experiences growing up. How can I not care for them. My parents also gave the example of my Grandma living with us. I loved having her live with us and spending time with her. It was an honor to have her in our home and all she shared with me, and how she made me laugh. Now, It’s so hard seeing my mom just lay in bed, and falling and seeing her in pain and struggling, she was always such a go go go getter and I always thought she would help me with my children, but now I help her go to the bathroom and wiping her and it is so hard!!!!!!! I’m not ready for all the changes, the future of selling the house I grew up in fills like my foundation is crumbling. My dad had MS and he is the one who is pushing through and serving my mom as much as he can. My brother is a Intensive Nurse and that helps, but sometimes he stresses me out because of what he shares and what his concerns are. Infact, he is adding on to his house so they can have their own place but also be right there. That’s great but I always thought they would be with me. I take them dinner several times a week so I know they have a variety of food. I have a young family and I work full time, and trying to keep everything up in my house, and I am so exhaused. We want to take my mom on a last trip while she can still see a little, and so she’s not just laying in bed. Oh my heart just hurts. We are very religious and are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latterday Saints and I know that we have a purpose here on earth to grow and improve, and to become the best person we can be with our Heavenly Fathers help and through the atonement of Jeusus Christ. I know through our good works after we pass from this life it’s just another step to return to our Heavenly Father and that is part of the plan. But it is hard to let go of our love ones because they have been our rock and such apart of our growth. I know that families can be together forever through Heavenly Fathers plan and that we will see them again, but I also believe it’s our blessing to serve them through there last test and journey here on this earth. Through serving we recieve blessings and learn so much. Letting go is maybe one of the experiences we are suppose to learn as we celebrate our parents example and life. I also know that when they leave us physically that their Spirit can help us from the other side when we still need them. This is a very sweet spot for me right now. I think about it everyday. I miss my normal mom! I ache for her I love her so much and it is so hard for me to imagion my life without her physcially here. My sweet Dad trys to hard to still help us and I know he is in such pain and never complains about any of his aliments. What amazing, wise, strong, and resilent generation we are loosing. Who have such strong values, and work ethic. It makes me sad because we need them to share and help teach these other generations the skills they lack and the knowledge they need to be successful. I hope I can teach my children all the things my parents have taught me, and maybe that’s another reason why I don’t want to loose my parents is because I want my children to learn and be taught by my parents example. They hold us to such great standards and values that the world lacks.
   Thanks for letting me share my thoughts feelings. May God bless you and your family.

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