Let’s talk about the “s” word. That’s right, SEX. It’s not just a three-letter word; it’s a topic that can make even the most confident person blush like a tomato. But why? Sex is a natural, healthy, and pleasurable activity that most of us engage in at some point in our lives. So, why does it carry so much shame and discomfort?
That’s where Dr. Kelly Casperson comes in. She’s like the cool aunt you never had. The one who’s not afraid to talk about the birds and the bees over a glass of wine. (Which you might need as you read this, so go grab some Dry Farm Wine and come right back).
Let’s talk about the taboo topics of sex, pleasure, and everything in between.
Why So Many Sex Conversations?
Now, I know some of you may be thinking, “Chalene, why are you always talking about sex?” Well, my friends, it’s because I care about you. I care about your sexual health, your pleasure, and your happiness. And if talking about sex is what it takes to help you achieve those things, then so be it.
But let’s not forget about the men. Yes, guys, this topic is for you too. You may think you know everything there is to know about sex, but let’s be real, there’s always room for improvement. And who better to learn from than Dr. Kelly, the expert on all things lady parts, hormones, and orgasms?
Every time I interview her, the more questions I get that start out something like, “Asking for a friend…” The questions get more vulnerable, more specific, and yes, a lot more embarrassing. Which is exactly why I know I need to keep bringing up the subject.
Yes, You’re Normal
What I’ve learned is that so many of you wonder if you’re “normal” when it comes to sex, hormones, desire and body parts. With sex being one of the great pleasures in life, these questions indicate that there’s a lot weighing on your hearts and minds…things that might be preventing you from having an incredible sex life.
Dr. Kelly has a beautiful way of normalizing anything and everything when it comes to our bodies. When it comes to sex, desire and our genitalia, there’s no homogeny. Every single one of us are different, and all of it is normal.
I ended up asking Dr. Kelly several questions about pleasure, trauma, vaginal odors, hormones and even squirting in this episode. (Some questions may make you a little uncomfortable). But that’s okay, it’s natural to feel that way. I mean, I still get a little red in the face when someone mentions the word “erection.” But let’s not let our discomfort hold us back from having these important conversations.
In fact, I challenge you to go home tonight and have a little chat with your partner. Ask them what they like, what they don’t like, and what they want to try. And if things get a little awkward, just blame it on me. “Chalene made me do it!” (Trust me, it works every time). But truly, the key to better sex is communication. Period.
So, let’s break down the barriers of shame and discomfort when it comes to sex. Let’s have these conversations with our partners, our friends, and even our doctors.
And, read Dr. Kelly’s book so that you can start to believe that you are NORMAL. Once you learn and accept that, the easier it becomes to enjoy sex and have desire into your late years in life.
Be sure to check out Dr. Kelly’s book, ” You Are Not Broken.“
Past Episodes with Dr. Kelly Casperson
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