To be a confident woman, you need to start with the way you talk to yourself. Most of us have internal dialogues that—if were heard out loud—would devastate everyone around us. What if we, as women, agreed to speak to ourselves the way we’d talk to our best girlfriend, or better yet, our daughter?
What if every day you focused on what you liked about yourself instead of what you don’t? Imagine what kind of confident woman you’d become if you saw in yourself all the beautiful things others saw in you? But really, the magic comes from within, and deciding to own the good, the bad and everything in between, because that’s what it means to be a human!
Once you accept your humanness, it’s much easier to feel, behave with, and exude confidence.
Confidence Comes From Owning Your Feelings
Being a confident woman feels complicated, but really just requires acceptance of yourself and your feelings. There’s really only one human I know who does this wholeheartedly and authentically, and that’s my good friend, Aprille Franks. She’s a shining example of a woman who exudes confidence and has built an empire around helping other women do the same.
Lots of women pretend to have confidence, but Aprille is the real deal. I’ve never met someone so uniquely themselves. She’s a successful entrepreneur, author, and speaker who is passionate about empowering women to achieve their goals and reach their full potential. Through her company, Women Recharged, she provides coaching, mentorship, and resources to women who want to build their confidence and grow their businesses.
One of the key lessons that Aprille teaches is the importance of self-love and that you don’t have to repress your femininity to get ahead. In order to be truly confident, you must first love and accept yourself for who you are. This means embracing your strengths and weaknesses, and being kind and forgiving to yourself when things don’t go as planned (or that mean inner voice takes over).
Many women dismiss their feelings, or are critical of their thoughts. We do this because we’re taught we need to be liked, service others, put ourselves last, or need to shrink ourselves to make everyone around us feel comfortable.
But who says you’re not allowed to have feelings that might go against the grain? Why don’t your TRUE feelings matter (even and especially when if they’re a little selfish)?
The Power of Your Thoughts
One of the important lessons that Aprille teaches is the power of positive thinking. Your thoughts have a significant impact on your emotions and behavior, so it’s important to cultivate a positive mindset. This involves reframing negative thoughts and beliefs, focusing on your strengths and accomplishments, and visualizing success and positive outcomes.
Aprille also emphasizes the importance of taking action to build confidence. Confidence is not something that you are born with, but rather something that you can cultivate through practice and experience. This means taking risks, stepping outside of your comfort zone, and facing your fears. It also means stepping into being who you were divinely created to be, unapologetically.
One of the ways that Aprille encourages women to take action is by setting goals and creating a plan to achieve them. This involves breaking down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps, and taking action each day to move closer to your goals. By setting and achieving goals, you build a sense of accomplishment and confidence in your abilities.
One daily way to do this is by creating affirmations, which are positive statements that you repeat to yourself to reinforce a positive mindset. For example, you might say to yourself, “I am confident and capable,” or “I trust myself to make good decisions.” These affirmations can be written down and displayed in a prominent place, or repeated to yourself throughout the day.
Cultivate the Right Tribe
Another important aspect of building confidence is surrounding yourself with supportive people who believe in you and your abilities. Aprille emphasizes the importance of having a strong support network, whether it’s through friends, family, or a mentor. These people can provide encouragement, advice, and feedback, and help you stay accountable to your goals.
In addition to building confidence in yourself, Aprille also teaches the importance of supporting and lifting up other women. She believes that when women support each other, they can achieve incredible things and overcome any obstacle.
Aprille’s own journey to becoming a confident woman is an inspiration to many. She’s faced numerous challenges and setbacks throughout her life, but has always persevered and used these experiences to grow and learn. She’s a shining example of a woman who has built confidence in herself despite obstacles (like being a teen mom and living in an abusive household).
By embracing self-love and self-care, cultivating a positive mindset, taking action, setting goals, and surrounding yourself with supportive people, you too can become a confident and ‘epic’ woman.
I encourage you to listen to my episode with Aprille right here. Her voice will inspire you far more that written words ever can!
More Episodes on Confidence…
- Communicate With More Confidence
- A Mother-Daughter Chat About Confidence
- Overcome Scarcity Mindset & Limiting Beliefs
Oh, and did you know I have a Patreon? If you love my free episodes, you’re going to LOVE the extra ones that I reserve just for my homies. These episodes are juicer, more personal, feature my husband Bret completely unfiltered and are kinda like a secret club. Check it out here.